A Soft and Gentle Approach

In a recent seminar, Abraham was asked this question:

“What is the most important advice you could give us?”

Abraham’s answer was:


That truly is the key to feeling better. There are so many judgements that we have picked up along the way. We hear them from our parents, our siblings, our friends, our classmates, our teachers, our bosses and many other people with whom we interact. We are also bombarded with ideas from movies, television, books, magazines and the ever present internet.

As a child, I took everything to heart. I wanted to be a good girl but there were so many rules, so many different ideas about how I should behave.  As a result, I often found myself criticizing myself for not living up to someone else’s standard. I also lost touch with my own guidance because of all the static in my head.

Two years ago, I decided to take a soft and gentle approach to myself. I started backing off on scolding myself. My mantra became, “Soft and easy.” I started to soothe myself with kinder thoughts. I let myself off the hook more often. I let myself be a little more content in any moment. I also actively sought to appreciate my personality, my interests and my ideas.

There was still a lingering feeling of having to justify or defend myself and that feeling of inadequacy also showed up as judgement of others. I believed that someone had to be wrong in every situation. Changes came gradually. As I became more loving and accepting of myself, it became easier to love and accept everyone else. It is easier to move through the world now that I feel more centered. I am clearer about who I am, what I want and what I want to offer to the world.

I want to be a loving presence wherever I go. I want to be encouraging, kind, calm and open. I want to experience life at a deeper level, connected to Source Energy, expecting the Universe to deliver all the people, situations and things that I have put into my vortex. I want to be light-hearted. I want to feel the love that my Inner Being has for me. I want to enjoy every aspect of my life and that includes any and all contrast.

There is no need to be guarded any more. I am always on my path. Looking at it in this way, I can live my life as the adventure that it truly is. I want to let it unfold before me. I want to allow the Universe to surprise and delight me every day.



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